Argh, My beautiful Fiancee ordered a "tea-stained" dress for a large wedding we are going to on May 30th. She thought it may be too light for a wedding, so she took a picture of herself and sent it to her buds on theknot.com message board to get their opinions. 100% of the girls said she shouldn't wear it because it is too close to white.
My freakout was there are all these rules: You can't wear anything close to white - only the bride may do that. You can't wear a bright color - you'd pull attention away from the bride. Some even say black is bad, because it can be interpreted as morose.
My freakout was there are all these rules: You can't wear anything close to white - only the bride may do that. You can't wear a bright color - you'd pull attention away from the bride. Some even say black is bad, because it can be interpreted as morose.
As long as you're not wearing a white gown, I think you're OK. I think some of these women on this board have fallen into wedding groupthink. It is very silly to think that one of your guest's dress could be a big issue unless you're a freak. Dear readers, I ask you to be the judge! Here is the picture from BCBG.COM in which it looks whiter than it is in real life!
Readers=BriLac
2 comments:
Well, I can only represent the Lac opinion, but...
It is a light color. But it is short. I would consider wearing it, but accessorize cleverly (I know your Fiance's got accessories!). Colored shoes, necklace, belt, bag and shawl. I'd almost go away from black and move to a color.
So, then it becomes, implicitly, a patterned dress. And those are fine.
May I add a couple more thoughts:
1) Your gorgeous fiance is not as pale as .. my gorgeous Bri.. so on any photo, things will look light.
2) She's asked friends on theknot. These people are all future brides, who are thinking of their own desire to be the center of attention. Not only that, they are FRIENDS on THEKNOT. Have you seen that message board? It's covered in topics like "HELP! PARTY FAVORS" and "URGENT! NYLON COLOR". These are not the chill brides of the world.
3) Social norms exist for a reason. Not that this dress offends the norm, but imagine if, at your wedding, someone decided to buck the norm on something you care about? Some social norms are there for your own safety. And that of the collective. Just say no to denim suits.
To put what the 'lac said in more crass terms: "That chick looks stupid in that dress. Your fiancee will not look stupid. Also theknot is bullshit."
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